From Self-Doubt to Self-Power: Rewriting Your Identity and Your Life with Deborah Yager
In this episode, we talk about how identity, language, and belief systems shape the life we experience. Many people feel stuck in self-doubt, fear, anxiety, or repeating the same patterns over and over without understanding why. The truth is that much of what we experience comes from the stories we tell ourselves and the identities we adopt over time.
We discuss Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), the mind-body connection, and how changing the way we speak to ourselves can completely change the direction of our lives. This conversation dives into transformation, personal responsibility, healing the past, and stepping into the life you are actually meant to live.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, anxious, unsure of your path, or like you’re meant for something more but don’t know how to get there, this episode will give you a new way to look at your life and your future.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She once believed her life would end in prison or death. Addiction, toxic relationships, debt, shame, and a life she never imagined for herself had completely taken over.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She couldn't read well, struggled with anxiety, and felt like she had lost who she was entirely. But then she discovered something that changed the direction of her life forever.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: A tool that helped her rebuild her identity, her confidence, and eventually her entire future. Today, she trains people all over the world to transform their lives and step into their power. But the path?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: from where she started to where she is now is not what you would expect, and we're going to talk about that today. Hi, and welcome to the You World Order Showcase Podcast, where we feature life, health, transformational coaches, and spiritual entrepreneurs stepping up to be the change they seek in the world.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm your host, Jill Hart, The Coaches Alchemist, on a mission to empower coaches and entrepreneurs to amplify their voice, monetize their mission, and get visible. If you're ready to start attracting premium clients without chasing algorithms or hunting people down like a banshee on a mission, head over to Coachesalchemist.com and schedule your free client acquisition audit. It's the first step in
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to building a business where your clients seek you out rather than you having to hunt them down. Today, we are chatting with Deborah Yeager. Deborah is a master trainer of neuro-linguistics programming, a high-performance coach, and the co-founder of Jaeger Training. She specializes in helping people break through their limiting beliefs, release shame, build confidence, and create powerful personal and professional transformations
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: through NLP and high-performance Coaching. Welcome to the show, Deborah. It's so great to have you here.
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::Deborah Yager: Thank you, Jill, so happy to be here.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Alright, so the big question is, what's the most significant thing, in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going?
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::Deborah Yager: So, and it sounds like this is something that you help people do every single day, is stepping up to the call and realizing the mess is the message.
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::Deborah Yager: I didn't realize when I was living in the hamster wheel of hell, that I was at choice for that. Because, you know, I thought I was really terrible at manifesting everything I didn't… I thought I was terrible at manifesting, not realizing I was really good at manifesting, it was just I needed to tweak how I was manifesting so I could shift it.
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::Deborah Yager: You know, I would say on a daily basis, I hate my life.
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::Deborah Yager: Right? I hate my job, you know, as you can… as the intro, you know, I was in a career that was completely wrong for me, and I felt like my soul was dying every single time I had to get up for work, put on the mask, just feeling like I was starving and craving for something more, and I felt like I was trapped.
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::Deborah Yager: I also believed I was a loser magnet, and I was casting spells into reality, and so I didn't realize that every single time I told my identity out loud to the universe, then I would attract the same abusive guy, different face, different name, and I would even say to my girlfriends, I will never do that again, and I would move from town to town to state to state, and then attracting the same thing. Little did I know that I was only attracting
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::Deborah Yager: acting what I thought I deserved, because I believed I was an addict, and an alcoholic, and I believed that there was something functionally wrong with me. I thought I was disgusting and broken, and the way that I would numb was through food, sex, drugs, alcohol, attention in all the wrong places, trying to fill this bottomless pit of a void, that was deep down inside. And, like.
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::Deborah Yager: like you said before, I was a stripper, and I was a sex worker, and I started doing that, right at the end of 16. 17 was when I first hustled a guy.
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::Deborah Yager: For money with sexual favors. And I wound up in jail, not for the first time. This was not the first time I had been arrested for solicitation of prostitution in Las Vegas, Nevada, but this time was a little different, because they actually held us overnight, and they gave us the orange jumpsuit, and I got to see a vision of my future, you know, this could be me, or even worse, I won't be on this planet any longer. And so I started asking for help.
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::Deborah Yager: help.
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::Deborah Yager: And I, you know, I knew that deep down inside there had to be something more than this. And whether you're listening here and, you're stuck in the hamster wheel of hell, whether it be in and out of, you know, relationships that you don't feel like are right for you, or feeling like you can't ask for what you want, or you're not getting paid what your value is, or perhaps you have something big that you're meant to share with the world, but you're afraid and you feel like an imposter.
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::Deborah Yager: I want you to know, and you probably talk about this inside of your school as well, is that that is the gift. That is the thing that you're here to transcend, and once you get the lesson and the learning and the wisdom, you can transcend whatever you want, you can step into the truth of who you are, and the cool part is you can actually serve from it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that, and it doesn't…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you're on one end of the spectrum, but this happens for people on the other end, too. They could be really high-performing doctors and lawyers and just, like, totally in the wrong career for them, personally. They feel it, but they're trapped, because they don't…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Think that they… They could be, like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: a chef, or an artist, or a coach around, you know, playing the guitar, I don't know. You just… whatever you're called to do to help people, and we're all called for some purpose, would you agree with that?
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::Deborah Yager: Oh, yes, and I got goosebumps all over my body when you're talking about that, because I see this, and it's multifaceted, and I see Type A high performers that climb the corporate ladder, become a doctor, lawyer, engineer, high-level executive.
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::Deborah Yager: you know, they've been bought into that your intrinsic value is a success that you bring to the world, and value does come from success. It's not to discount all the degrees and the money that we make, which is a beautiful part of this earth plane school that we're here to live, and have you bought into an ideology that that's what you're supposed to do to feel fulfilled and happy?
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::Deborah Yager: And for some people, they truly feel happy, you know, having that, you know, nice car, and to have the perfect wife and husband, and or family, and the white picket fence, and having that corporate career, and for maybe a season, that does fulfill you. But then, eventually, and we saw this during COVID, people looked in the mirror like, I don't even know who I am.
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::Deborah Yager: I don't, you know, this life that I've created that I thought would make me happy.
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::Deborah Yager: is not really what I'm supposed to be doing with my time, and to be of service with the world. And so, they feel stuck. Like, we work with doctors all the time that are stuck in a system that is designed to suck their life force energy, and also not really add value to a lot of people's lives in a lot of ways, because
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::Deborah Yager: the medical model, from my perspective, has been… there's a lot of corruption in the world, and the good news is that the more chaos that's happening, because I look at what's happening in the world with politics, the money situation, cryptocurrency, the health paradigm, all of it that's crumbling down is showing that intrinsically, we are a house of cards that
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::Deborah Yager: Set up a system that is no longer functional for humanity, and it's coming down, and that gives an opportunity for people that have passion, like you said, maybe an amazing chef, or art, or sound therapy, or whatever, to come forward, and for the very first time, we can love our life, do what we're meant to be doing with our purpose and passion, and make money doing it, and serve the world.
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::Deborah Yager: So, it is a great time to be alive, in my personal opinion.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Couldn't agree with you more. It's just like…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And we're gonna circle back to neuro-linguistics programming a little bit on this, because it really feeds into what I believe about the world, in that… and you touched on it earlier with manifesting, we're all amazing manifestors.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's just that we're not really good at
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Figuring out what it is that we want to manifest before we actually manifest it. And then we continue in this little rut that we've made, and we don't see how to jump
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: into a different paradigm, or a different timeline, or however you want to look at it. We cannot constantly change how our life is going.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But I think neuro-linguistic programming helps us figure out how to make that happen for us.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You said?
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::Deborah Yager: Yes. I mean, that was a game changer for me, and part of what we do is hypnosis. We also do a really fun modality called Quantum Time Technique, which you can tap into your timeline and collapse a probability wave into the manifestation of what you desire here in the now. And so this combination of tools gives you the ability… I don't know about you, but when I went to school, they didn't tell you how the mind-body connection works and how to create success
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::Deborah Yager: And how our identities that are negative in nature can trap us in a hamster wheel of hell. And when we step off that wheel, we have the power to create whatever we want based upon our frequency, our vibration, and our belief system. And this is quantum physics. We all know from quantum physics that what you choose to focus on, and an elevated emotion, this is what Dr. Joe's talking about, and then the
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::Deborah Yager: we choose to use cast spells into reality. Most people don't realize that, you know, they speak like they're describing what's happening, but they don't realize the language they choose to use is either creating the life that they desire and or is manifesting everything that you do not want. And once you understand how to crack that code, anybody can step off and create their own timeline.
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::Deborah Yager: In fact, we're all creating our timeline with every breath, with every thought, with every word, with every elevated emotion, and every way that we filter our reality and choose to focus on what we can have and what we can't have. And most of us, when we're not trained, and that's kind of how the matrix is set up, in my opinion, we can go down that rabbit hole, the way that we've been trained is
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::Deborah Yager: self-selecting a life that is full of pleasure, fun, adventure, transformation, and a full-body hell yes for everything that you desire. We've also been trained that it's something intrinsically wrong with you if you are even asking yourself.
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::Deborah Yager: the question, what do I want? Because it's considered selfish. And so that's another… so there's all these cultural and, universal belief systems that create this matrix that keep people stuck, and once you understand how the game is played, you can change it like that. And it's really fun, and it's really easy.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is easy, but it's not intuitive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: because we are trained over the years to, you know, we're… I believe we come here with a plan, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We have a desire for how we want things to go, and what things we want to learn, and what connections we're gonna make, and everybody goes through trauma, because that's… that's, like, the crucible to get you to go in the direction that you're supposed to go in.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Oftentimes we get stuck in that trauma, and we don't realize that It's like… Get over it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's gonna push you, To where you need to be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And it's easy to fall back in it, you know? It's, like, happens to me all the time. I have those days where it's just, like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What's the point?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You gotta get beyond that to realize that
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There is a point, and you just gotta keep moving forward, and take advantage of people that have a little more experience than you have, to help you understand the tools that are available to us.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And there are, like, so many tools for transforming our lives from where we are in this moment to where we want to be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: People like you that are just like, come on!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I can show you.
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::Deborah Yager: Yeah, and I think that's the point, you know, I think that this 3D reality, we come from my perspective. This is my belief system as of right now, and by the way, when I find new information, I'm open to changing it.
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::Deborah Yager: And as of right now, I think this is how the game plays, is that we come from Source, which is all intelligence. Some people would call it God, universal intelligence, Akasha, and we come down and we separate, and we come and have this three-dimensional experience that is dense, right? It's separated from Source, and that's technically the word sin, by the way. It means separation from Source, and we're going and we're…
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::Deborah Yager: kind of fumbling around, and we take the elixir of forgetfulness, so we don't remember anything, and so that's the point of the game. It's like, it makes the game really exciting when you don't know the mechanism of the game, but through the process of fumbling and
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::Deborah Yager: sending over and over and missing the mark, you start learning and knowing thyself, right? And I think that's the point, is through this adversity, part of it, going back to you and alchemists, right? It's the spiritual alchemists, and the alchemists back in the day, they were taking this lead-dense material, and through the process of alchemy, they were refining it and turning it into perfected gold, and that's what we're doing.
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::Deborah Yager: through these tragedies or spiritual boot camps, we are moving through and growing and transforming and getting transformational strategies so that we can serve in a deeper way. We also have gifts that come in that are just innate, right? And so, really, the whole process from a big picture is to discover who you are and how you're here to serve. And when you look at it from that way, there is no failure.
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::Deborah Yager: It doesn't… it makes it so much more fun when you can look at it as a game, and the more failure you have, and the more that you learn, the more that you win the game, so who freaking cares? And so it takes the pressure off, because I think a lot of us are so afraid of failing.
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::Deborah Yager: And I think failure is the point, right? It's just feedback. And so when you look at it from that perspective, it takes the pressure off ourself.
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::Deborah Yager: And then it gives you the permission to take messy-inspired action, and to test.
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::Deborah Yager: Right? And, you know, it doesn't necessarily… like, again, it could be that this is your life's purpose, and you're having the calling right now, and every season's different, and so not being… holding on to death grip, that it needs to look this way forever, being open to change for the rest of your life, because that's the point.
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::Deborah Yager: And when you look at it from that, it just gets super exciting and fun, at least for me.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that you mentioned seasons, because it ties us back to nature, and we really are natural beings.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And beings have progression. You don't expect a tree to look like a sapling its entire existence, nor do you expect it to have fruit.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Every month of the year.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Or flowers, or pine cones, or whatever it is that they use to reproduce. It's just, like, there's seasons, and every season, there's four seasons, but each one of those four seasons in the life of a plant looks different.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Some plants come, and they're… they do their thing one time, one year, that's it, they're done.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's their whole existence.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Others come back year after year, and they mature, and they look different, and they produce differently, and, you know, some years it's a really prolific, and other years it's not so prolific.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: people are like that, too, and I don't understand why we think that, you know, we're gonna grow up, and then…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: For women, this is especially true.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're gonna become… It's as though we're supposed to be…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're supposed to be between teenagers and matronhood.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Eternally, like, you have to look a certain way, really young, in order to attract a mate, and then you're supposed to take care of your children, and then when you hit menopause.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Life's done.
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::Deborah Yager: Right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Fully half of our lives are after that point.
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::Deborah Yager: Alright.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And so many women hit menopause, and they're like, What happened to me?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Instead of, hey, this is a new season, and I have all the power now, I've got all this experience, and, you know, for the women that didn't have kids.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think it's, like…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Maybe they went in the career route, and they're really successful, so you've given birth to something.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's… it's whatever your body of work is that you… you dedicated all of this time and experience to. It's okay. Now… now is the time that you really can shift into a different… onto a different path, and I think the more that we can help younger women
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: who are coming up. I have teenagers, people getting out of high school, starting their… career choices.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To realize that, you know, Life is an adventure!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You can make it whatever you want.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You don't have to go down any certain path. There's no rules.
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::Deborah Yager: Right. And that's something that it's… it's really dear to my heart, and I'm glad you've been… you brought this up, because personally, you know, I… I didn't have children.
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::Deborah Yager: So, I went from the maiden to… all of a sudden, now I feel like I'm embodying… I feel like I've been a mother through the birthing of our business and all that stuff, and we were going to want to have a baby at some point, and then we decided not to. And then I feel like now I'm stepping into crone energy.
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::Deborah Yager: And everything about society says that
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::Deborah Yager: you are supposed to look like a maiden slash mother, and be fertile and beautiful and, you know, like, look like that forever. And that's the marketing system that… but it's also in our DNA, as women been passed down through, you know, generations that you are considered property or an object that could then be positioned a certain way if you're beautiful and young and vibrant.
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::Deborah Yager: to then be able to political… like, a political chess move, essentially, for family. And so there's intrinsic
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::Deborah Yager: Fear of being out of date
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::Deborah Yager: not usable, not of value as we become crone energy. And then, you know, then on top of that, like, the plastic surgery and all that stuff, not putting anybody down. I just personally got my breast implants removed because they were making me sick, and I was done with that season in my life.
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::Deborah Yager: Right? I, for many, many years, I thought my only value was the way that I looked, and you could see, in that type of career, how that was reinforced in so many ways. I chose to objectify myself. Nobody objectified me. That was something I chose to do.
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::Deborah Yager: And so just having this conversation to let women know that you are beautiful, and the lines, from my perspective, is the wisdom. It's kind of like the aging on a tree of all the different lines. You've been around the block so many times, and you have gifts to share with the world with that, and I have my little skunk stripe to prove it. She's coming in, and I look at the
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::Deborah Yager: my witch, my rogue energy that's, you know, like, the wisdom from it. So that's something I'm personally moving through as well, and letting go of the constructs. Is this really mine, and do I truly believe this? Or is this something that has been told to me to control and keep my power?
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::Deborah Yager: you know, dampened, as a woman, and becoming… stepping into this new sage type of energy. And so, yeah, just letting other women know that you're not alone.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're not alone, and personally, you know, I went through menopause decades ago.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love this part of my life.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I've… I did have lots of kids, but, you know, they're adults now, and I don't have to run their lives. That's their job.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I can just, like, visit and enjoy who they are as human beings, and encourage the women that are part of my tribe that, you know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There's more to life than just this moment and season that you're in, but really enjoy that season.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know, enjoy the present. Embrace the moments that you have to experience in life, And then…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In that gratitude and ability to appreciate
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: The good pieces, and to learn from them, you can…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: move forward into other experiences that you will treasure just as much. It's not… you don't have to stay
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In that season, just because… Society says you must.
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::Deborah Yager: Right.
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::Deborah Yager: Right. We have the power to define it in any way. And I think there's just… there's a cultural thing in that it's been around for many years, and now even it's amplified with social media, and so it's just a great conversation to have, of the nuances of the different seasons as women, and the things that we fear, right?
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::Deborah Yager: do we feel like… I have a husband that supports me, and he's like, do not get, you know, Botox and stuff like that. But some men, like, they… I know women that have been pressured into getting breast implants, or doing this or that, or augmenting their body. Not that there's anything wrong with that, if that's something that you feel called to do.
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::Deborah Yager: And, you know, as women, as we're stepping into consciousness of this new version of ourself and what that means as the different season of women, and how we can define that in our own unique way, in freedom, and play and fun, also conscious men, too, supporting that dynamic of their other half, as well.
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::Deborah Yager: So, I think we'll see a shift. The more that we embody spirituality as a culture, I think a lot of that will fall away in the wayside. Because the value is not on the outside, it's more of what is coming from within.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think so, too, and it's not just a woman issue, it's men and women.
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::Deborah Yager: Hmm.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Men… men getting the freedom to realize that they could just be themselves.
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::Deborah Yager: Alright.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And they don't have to be mothered by somebody, or they don't have to be in total control over everybody. They're not responsible for everybody's life, including their own.
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::Deborah Yager: provider.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know, they can just be a partner. They can be somebody that you have fun with, that they're your friend, not…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: not the father figure, in some cases, or the child figure. It's like, they don't have an identity anymore, and a lot of the feminist movement was just, like, pushback against the control that a certain group of
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Predominantly men had over…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: how women were supposed to be treated. The whole women's movement didn't happen, really, until the 70s.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I was a teenager when it was really coming into being, and I watched the dynamics of how…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How men and women relationships changed?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And how it affected women. And my mom was a really
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She was part of the Burn Your Bra crowd.
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::Deborah Yager: That's awesome.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Married to a naval officer. Yeah. Very conservative on one side, and very liberal on the other. It was really funny to watch their dynamics.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But, you know, it's just, like, change is happening, and you can see it in the younger women coming up.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: men. You know, it's like, people are allowed to
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: more and more, just be who they are. We… we're not making…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Commentary, if you're… if you come into this world and you're attracted to the same sex?
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::Deborah Yager: Great.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's great! That's who you are.
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::Deborah Yager: If not, dude, great!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, if you're not.
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::Deborah Yager: Great!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Right! And you can be who you are, and contribute what you're here to contribute. It doesn't define who you are as a human being.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just defines what you're attracted to.
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::Deborah Yager: Yeah, and I love what you talked about in terms of, you know, like, how there's always, like, this… what we see in society is this pendulum swing of, you know, there's some sort of repression or trauma that's done, happening for us, not to us, right? I think in the bigger picture, all of it has
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::Deborah Yager: it all has a purpose for our own consciousness, to wake up and to be, again, of choice of who we are. And so then, you know, we attend… some people tend to, then because of the wounding, then go to the far end of the spectrum, and I can tell you that's in my own personal life, of how I've had the pendulum swing. And then now, I feel like we're coming to the middle.
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::Deborah Yager: Of, like, yes, there's been pain and sorrow on both sides, and yes, there's been trauma that we've done to each other, and also to other people, and we don't have to do that anymore, and we can ask ourselves what we truly delight… delight, what we truly desire, from a neutral, you know, place, and respect all variations of creation.
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::Deborah Yager: and re-identify ourselves of whatever our soul is asking for in this life, and what is that purpose. And so, it's just such a beautiful time to be alive. I'm so grateful. Sometimes I pinch myself with my husband, and we say to ourselves, we love our life, because it's just, like, an amazing time to be alive.
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::Deborah Yager: We have so much freedom. We do.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We do.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We can step into the matrix and get
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: in a place of fear. I mean, it's easy to do that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But it's also easy to step back and say, But today is good.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Nothing has really impacted me, personally.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I can do things to impact others that will make their day good, too.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, how does the narrow linguistics play into all of this, in terms of… how…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How you help people stop that self-doubt, fear, and insecurity.
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::Deborah Yager: Yeah, so NLP, neuro-linguistic programming, it's the science of the mind-body connection. It's the science of language, how we choose to speak to ourselves. I used to have a really strong, itty-bitty, shitty committee, and it was, in fact, it was a committee of all these different voices inside myself that were constantly berating.
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::Deborah Yager: And having the realization, going back to, like, the shadow and…
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::Deborah Yager: you know, what we have been told that is bad or nasty or disgusting about ourselves, realizing that that is our greatest advocate, it just has not the right training, right? And so having compassion and love for ourselves, I think the more that we embrace our shadow, the more that that's gonna get projected out on the stage of this universal consciousness that we see this dynamic of polarizing
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::Deborah Yager: And so, understanding that that voice is trying to help you, and retraining it, with NLP to speak nicely to yourself, and it will get a better result and so much easier. And then how do we communicate effectively to others, right? And so, in our dynamic relationships, or even the context of facilitators and coaches and health practitioners, how do we inspire and motivate and lead people
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::Deborah Yager: with conscious use of language, so that they see the possibility in saying yes to themselves. And then the patterns and programs, so where do they come from? Is it this lifetime? Has it been passed down through the generations? You know, is this epigenetically been stored in our DNA and our cells, and turned off certain DNA, and, like, is it a cellular memory of trauma and drama from the past? Because from my perspective, no matter what color your skin is.
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::Deborah Yager: no matter where you're from, most likely, at some point, your ancestors went through genocide, famine, rape, you know, just war in general. And so, that is stored in our stuff, in our beautiful stuff that we can transform, and we don't have to be a victim and carry it any longer. And the cool thing is that when we do this work, we not only heal eight generations into the past, but we ate 8 generations into the future, and the work that we do internally.
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::Deborah Yager: internally, not only because we all know from, you know, the Hermetic laws and or in Hebrew Scripture or the Bible.
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::Deborah Yager: as above, so below. So when we do the work internally, then it reflects back onto the grand stage of life. And so all of this together, and then past lives, some people believe in past lives, about 50%, and we've seen wild things with past life that's been…
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::Deborah Yager: from our perspective, passed down through the soul body, right? And so, all of this dynamic, that then makes up how we think, we feel, we manifest, how we speak about our identities, the unconscious behavior and conscious behavior, because a lot of people are very aware that they sabotage themselves, but they just don't know how to change it.
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::Deborah Yager: And so once you understand that map, and you have the tools to re-pattern and program, and choose different language to create your reality, it gives you ultimate freedom.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It really does, and… It's… it's kind of like knowing where the doorknob is to this door.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I think you provide that in a…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: is it a workshop? I'm not really sure what the Stop Self-Doubt, Fear, and Insecurity Dead in Its Tracks piece is.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Is it a guide?
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::Deborah Yager: So, it is a online course that we've done that you can do from the comfort of your own home, that you get a manual, and you get to workshop it through, and we're guiding you through a breakthrough process with NLP. We're also showing you language patterns you can use to create success.
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::Deborah Yager: not only are you transmuting yourself and alchemizing yourself, but then how can you use language and support and coaching modalities to alchemize the people around you, whether it be in your business, in the career, and or partner, or, you know, selling your kids into an idea. I'm selling my partner all the time into my perspective, of course. And it first starts with selling ourself into our own success.
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::Deborah Yager: And then, when people enroll in that program, which, by the way, is the investment of a cup of coffee in a, you know, a city. So, it's a very low-cost investment, and the value of the transformation is exponential. You also get bonused in what we call the Breakthrough Accelerator, which is
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::Deborah Yager: teaching you about your quantum timeline. So, you can do quantum time manifestation with this goal-setting process that we go into the quantum field and select the timeline of what you're choosing, of your desired outcome.
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::Deborah Yager: And then we also can take you back into the past to clear that ancestral stuff, as well as past life stuff that is
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::Deborah Yager: gunking up the… your field, it's essentially distortion in the pattern, that, then once optimized, then you're projecting everything you want, and it's easy to attract exactly what you desire.
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::Deborah Yager: start. Yeah.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, it's a great place to start, and I…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I can see you out there rolling your eyeballs.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Let me remind you that you don't see the wind, and you don't know how magnets work.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Or gravity.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They just work, and… NLP… works. And we do actually know how it works.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: on some levels, we see the results, which is really all we want, right? We just want results.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, why not?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Experience!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Living a life where you're controlling your self-doubt, and your… the fears that we all have, And…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: insecurities which lead to anxiety, which is one of the leading things that people suffer from right now. There are so many people wandering around anxious, and they don't really, like, wake up in cold sweats in the middle of the night, and their heart's pounding, and they have panic attacks. That's all from, like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Self-doubt, fear, and insecurity is, like, the thing that's causing this big problem, and it's really simple to…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Take a step towards Getting… having a life where it doesn't… Revolve around that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And you can find that at nlpmadesimple.com, correct?
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::Deborah Yager: Yes.
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::Deborah Yager: Yes, and I… I was one of those people. I had been labeled with generalized anxiety at 13. I was on Xanax, right? And, I also had a belief system that I was an anxious person, that I was afraid of everything. I would have panic attacks, right, in the middle of the night, and or just going to pump gas and looking the attendant in the eye, I would literally have panic attacks, so I was afraid of
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::Deborah Yager: everything. So I got you if you're feeling that way. And just remember that our trapped negative emotions at the unconscious level that you may not be aware… it's like, it's a backpack. We've been collecting all these negative emotions because we're not taught how to process.
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::Deborah Yager: emotions, energy and motion. And so, whenever we're having these triggers, there's something that is triggering it out of your awareness that's causing you to have this, and your unconscious mind, your body intelligence, say, pay attention! That's why it's creating the anxiety and the tension in the body, because
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::Deborah Yager: Long-term, we know that stress causes dis-ease, and the number one prime directive of your body intelligence is for you to be healthy and vibrant. And so, it's causing you to have these panic attacks, for you to wake up.
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::Deborah Yager: And find the tools to transmute this energy, and once you do, everything changes, and it doesn't have to be hard, it doesn't have… like, for some people, they like to make it hard. I chose to make it hard because I had an identity around making it harder than it needed to be, because there's something there that I got out of it, which is called secondary gain. And it also can be very simple when you have the right tools, the right support.
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::Deborah Yager: And…
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::Deborah Yager: you don't have to believe it to actually see it, you just have to start. Because I didn't… a lot of people think that you have to believe, and then it will happen, and yes, that does make it a lot easier for yourself, but I've also seen it happen over and over again with people that are super skeptical.
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::Deborah Yager: And this stuff works. It's modern magic, and it is science-based, and we talk about the science of quantum physics, and how it relates to the body intelligence, and how you can change your life with simple dialed-in focus and clearing the baggage that's holding you back.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Cause… Exactly.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Ed… really just… To reach out to someone.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: who has the tools to help you. But mostly, you know, go get that That guide, because it will…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's the doorknob to opening The whole rest of your life in a way that is just, like…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: gonna change everything for you. It can change everything for us.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you choose to let it.
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::Deborah Yager: Yes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thanks so much for joining us today, Deb. This has been great.
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::Deborah Yager: conversation.
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::Deborah Yager: Thank you, I appreciate the work that you're doing in the world. It sounds like you're helping people take it to the next level, and I would love to invite you, to our podcast, too, so we could hear your story, because I would love…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'd love to hear it.
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::Deborah Yager: About your alchemist that you're doing with all the coaches and facilitators, it sounds like you're transforming, in so many ways, people's lives.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We are, by spotlighting what you guys are doing.
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::Deborah Yager: Well, thank you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, you can learn more about Debra and using NLP to transform your life at nlpmadeSimple.com, and we'll be sure to put that link in the description below. Thanks for joining us today. If you're ready to amplify your voice, monetize your mission, and start attracting premium clients, your next step is simple. Head to thecoachesalchemist.com and schedule your free client acquisition audit.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Join us for our next episode as we share what others are doing to raise the global frequency. And remember, change begins with you. You have all the power to change the world. Start today, and get visible.
