The Self-Trust Advantage: Why Confidence Isn't Enough to Create Lasting Change
What if the real reason people stay stuck isn't a lack of confidence—but a lack of self-trust?
In this powerful conversation, hypnosis practitioner and coach Melissa Boher Jacobson shares why self-esteem is at the root of so many personal, professional, and societal challenges. Together, we explore the hidden connection between self-worth, fear, emotional intelligence, leadership, and lasting transformation.
You'll discover:
✨ Why confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing
✨ How fear-based thinking sabotages success and decision-making
✨ The surprising relationship between low self-worth and narcissistic behaviors
✨ How childhood beliefs shape adult outcomes
✨ Why self-trust is the foundation of personal power
✨ How hypnosis can help rewire limiting beliefs at the source
✨ The role emotions play in creating your reality
✨ A simple mindset shift that can begin rebuilding self-trust today
If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, imposter syndrome, fear of judgment, or feeling stuck in old stories, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on creating change that lasts.
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Transcript
You World Order
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: 85% of people struggle with self-esteem, but the real shock is that some of the most confident-looking people are fighting the deepest self-worth battles. Fear is often sold as a motivator for success, leadership, and even personal growth, yet it may be the very thing keeping people stuck.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In this conversation, you'll discover why self-trust, not confidence, is the foundation of lasting success, how hypnosis can…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: permanently reshape the beliefs deriving your behavior, and the surprising connection between low self-worth and narcissistic traits. Stay with us, because near the end, you'll learn the simple shift that can begin
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Rebuilding self-trust faster than most traditional approaches. Hi, and welcome to the You World Order Showcase Podcast, where we feature life, health, transformational coaches, and spiritual entrepreneurs stepping up to be the change they seek in the world. I'm your host, Jill Hart, the Coach's alchemist, on a mission to empower coaches and entrepreneurs to amplify their voice.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Monetize their mission and get visible.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If you're ready to start attracting premium clients without chasing algorithms or hunting people down like a banshee on a mission, head on over to Coachesalchemist.com and schedule your free client acquisition audit. It's the first step to building a business where your clients seek you out rather than you having to hunt them down. Today, we are chatting with Melissa Bohr, Melissa Jacobson, Melissa is a hypnosis practitioner, coach, and creator who helps individuals and families
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: transform limiting beliefs, heal emotional pain, and build lasting self-esteem. She is also the trainer of the Bunny Talk Process, a neuroscience-informed emotional regulation method that helps children, teens, adults, and professionals
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Release stored emotions through play, movement, metaphor, and safety without needing to relive past painful experiences. Her work focuses on helping people develop greater self-trust.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: emotional resilience and success in both life and business. Welcome to the show, Melissa. It's great to have you with us.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Thank you for having me. Glad to be here.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay, so let's get you started with the big question. What's the most significant thing, in your opinion, as individuals we can do to make an impact on how the world is going?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Easy for me to answer that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Self-esteem.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We are in a crisis of self-esteem. It looks like other things.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But it really is… this statistic that I quoted, which…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's other more specific statistics around this, but…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: If you think about it, self-esteem drives all over the world problems, including war.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's, it's at the root of so many of our emotional and mental health issues.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: As I mentioned, narcissism is related to lack of self-esteem.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So that's an easy one for me.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I can totally relate to the narcissistic issues. I've… I lived with
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I lived with two people, my mother, for one, and then my father-in-law, who lived with us for, like, 18 years. They both had self-esteem issues, and, you know, not to blame them for anything, and most narcissists, if you really look at them, it is not…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's not their fault.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it was just how they were raised, and they had parents who had problems, and their parents had problems. I love that we're in a generation where people are becoming aware that this is a big problem, and these…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I call them generational curses in some circles, but they're just… it's passing on behavioral traits that don't train people how to be proud of who they are. Just to be, you know, being proud of who you were was, like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to a… You were being selfish or prideful, as though that's some bad thing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Exactly right. So… So many people have limiting beliefs around
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Their self-worth and their self-esteem, and they were…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They, you know, we, we, we live what we learn.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Certainly. And also, we… Obtain our beliefs very, very early on in our childhood.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The way our brain develops, by the time we're 7, most of our, sort of, operating system beliefs have been embedded, and so many people grew up with this belief that
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's this confusion between self-esteem.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and arrogance. Or confidence and self-esteem and confidence are two different things.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Self-esteem is your relationship with your self-worth, and confidence is your… confidence in your abilities, and you could have confidence and no self-worth, or self-esteem. But a lot of us were raised to be, quote, humble, and if we…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: had self-belief, people often have a fear that if I believe in myself, that means I'm conceited, or I'm arrogant, or, you know, I think a lot of things were embedded, depending on the culture that you're from, this humility.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know, that humility is a virtue, and anything that isn't that is a sin, or a crime, or something somehow negative. And so…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: that… It's one of the many things that drives, people's inability to have that relationship with themselves.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Where they love, trust, accept, value themselves.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And then they pass it on to their children, that low self-esteem, that anxiety. And self-esteem is a huge driver of anxiety.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And imposter syndrome.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: is.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so many things.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I have to wonder if societies aren't, developed around
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: having people with low self-esteem, because if you can have a community of low self-esteem, it allows leaders more control over you, because really, people with self-esteem are more independent thinkers. They're more willing to stand outside the box and go, there's something wrong with that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: you're not wrong there. I mean, I think there's definitely… there's a lot, you know, we talk about World History 101, you know, there's definitely,
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Historically, when we want to control other people, and this does connect to the narcissistic conversation as well, that people who want to control others are gonna do that through controlling their emotions.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And when you can keep somebody in a state of low self-esteem, they are. They're definitely much easier to control, because they have self-doubt.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Second guessing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Overthinking.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And all those things that keep people stocked. So, yeah, there is…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I think there's definitely some truth to that, that, there's not just narcissists, but there are narcissistic cultures, that exist in business.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's no doubt about it, we, you know, we hear it all the time as coaches, well, I left my corporate job because it was toxic. Just heard about this yesterday on a call that I was on.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I loved my job, but the management was toxic, and they were always, you know, you know, kind of standing on my neck, and breathing, you know, like, always breathing down my neck, and always hyper, hypercritical, and, you know, I couldn't do my job.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Taking care of these people.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because the environment, so I had to quit. So, yeah, we definitely… it's a structure that exists.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Not just in people, but in organizations and cultures and corporations, there's no doubt about it. Bring up a really good point.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's… it's interesting to me to see…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How the workplace is shifting around this, and there's, like.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: people are allowed to behave in ways that… when I was in the workforce.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There were different things they did that that were annoying.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Trust me, that one. But… and now it's like…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They're… they allow weird behavior to… To become pervasive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In… in their… In their companies. And it's… it's really about, I, I… I'm…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm equating this poorly, I recognize. I'm trying not to, like, get pointed in this story, but I remember in a couple of episodes that my daughter has related to me, and she's 22,
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: About things that happen in the workplace, specific people doing things that are just, like, they're odd.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And people do odd things that… didn't… Used to be, like…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So I'd like to… I'd actually like to discuss that a little bit, because…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I work with… I work with a lot of…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: current entrepreneurs who used to be in… or… and or… and or still, like, I'm thinking of one client in particular.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Who is still working in a corporate environment, and also starting their own business, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's a lot of reasons for that, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's complex, but one of the…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: big issues that we see, not just in business, but in society, is a lack of emotional intelligence, and a lack of training around emotional intelligence. And one of the highest forms of emotional intelligence is consequential thinking.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so, people… often the people who are running a corporation or have gotten promoted, they're not getting promoted because of their emotional intelligence or their skills or ability, they're getting promoted because…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They have been there the longest.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And they… also, we know that, 80% of women and, you know, these statistics don't, you know, necessarily…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Are not necessarily exact figures, but approximately, we'll say, 85, 80-85% of women, 40% of men have imposter syndrome.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so, people are lacking consequential thinking skills, They're operating out of fear.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Which is what causes them to not be able to cognate, because when we have fear and, you know, stressful, fearful thinking, it slows down our cognitive function. So they're making weird decisions, because most of the decisions that we're making are made out of fear.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and a lack of consequential thinking skills. They're not able to see what the consequence… they might be able to see the consequence of not doing what their bosses want them to do, that consequence, which is the fear of being fired or losing their job.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But they're not able to see those smaller consequential, the smaller parts of consequential thinking, where, you know, when you berate an employee.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: it's gonna make them less productive, not more productive.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You, you know, when you're trying to operate a business based on the fear model.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You're gonna get less out of your employees, because when people are in fear, they can't cognate.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They can't think.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so they say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And you're putting the consequences on them, and the only consequence they have are, I'm… I'm either gonna quit now, or I'm gonna wait to be fired.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Because those are the only two consequences that they can… with the information that they generally have.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: imagine. And it really comes down to imagination. I think because we live in a society that does not practice reading skills as much as we have at other times,
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Or is that I imagine we had at other times.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And probably why there's, like, splits in society.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: People that read a lot tend to have better imaginations, and.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Absolutely.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Larry.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I have an imagination to be able to…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Think about what the potential consequences are of an action that you're thinking about taking.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Well, and the other thing is that,
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Over the last several decades, there's been a real focus on logical…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: mathematical intelligence in the workplace, because we have a lot of engineering projects and, you know, a lot of computer-generated things, and that requires…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Kind of a computer…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I mean, our brain is the original computer. It's the most amazing computer, and artificial intelligence.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: can't touch it. They want… they think they can, but…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They think they'll get there, but they really will never get there, because
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The human brain is the only brain that creates from nothing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so because of all this, emphasis on this one kind of intelligence, there are…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I think there's 9 different kinds, and… they're all…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: they're all malleable. We can… we have neuroplasticity develop all of these.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And there… people are focusing so much, and I see this in my work, because I work with teens and families, and I work with, you know, high-achieving families who want their kids to do really well, and I see this emphasis on math and science.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… So, in… part of my work is coaching, kids, To… to speak in public.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: With confidence, and they have to… and to write creatively, and create… Presentations, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So many of the kids that I see are so afraid.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And they're so underdeveloped in their creative abilities.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I will say to them, you know, are you afraid that AI's gonna take your job?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah, the robots are taking over. Yeah, okay, but…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The one thing we have over the robots is creativity, and if you're not developing your creativity.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know, 1 plus 1 equals 2, AI can do that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: black and white logical thinking. AI can do that in a millisecond.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But it can't create, and you need to develop your creative skills.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so, we don't focus enough in the workplace on those other intelligences.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Like, kinesthetic, and creative, and visual, and aural, and all of these different things.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That really can make our employees excited to come to work, And can, create innovation in our companies.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because we're so run by fear and low self-esteem.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Even at the highest levels.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know, I was.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And we're attracting people in channels?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I was working with somebody yesterday… yeah, yesterday, so…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I work with people in a lot of different ways, but…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I was working with a high schooler yesterday.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… she was learning a skill.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because she has to do a big presentation in front of her community.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I was explaining all these different intelligences to her.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I was telling her.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: How developed these different intelligences are for her, and how she can trust those intelligences.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that she does not need to struggle so much, or work so hard, because those intelligences are available to her, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: it was like a light bulb went off, and suddenly what we were working on became so much easier. And that's exactly what I'm talking about when I talk about self-trust.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Trusting the systems that are already innate.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Within you.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But most people are focused on the part that is the weakest, which is our conscious mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Which is… I like to say it this way.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That our conscious mind, which we don't even have until we're 5 to 7 years old.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Before that, we're all unconscious, we're all imagination, we're all intuition.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We don't have a critical faculty until we're 10.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, you, I'm sure, can relate to this as a grandma and a mom.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Remember when your daughters were…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: 7, and they would dance around the living room, and they would… I don't know, I imagine that they were making plays, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: you know, if they're like you, they're super fun, and outgoing, and they didn't care what anybody thought about them, and they were full of imagination, and if you told them that Barney was at the front door with candy, they'd run to the front door!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because they're all unconscious, all imagination, all intuition.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And they ha- they didn't… Know that people had opinions or were judging them.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Then at about 4th, 5th grade in the US, or 10 years old, say, things changed.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: they got kind of shut down. They started to worry about what other girls or kids in the classroom were saying about them. They started to have…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know, more… concern about other people's opinions, and that's totally normal, by the way. That's…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Normal human development, it's supposed to happen, and it's great.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And we're grateful, because it makes us have discernment.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: When you say Barney is at the door with candy, they're like, no, he's not. That's not even real. So, it's a good thing, because that's when we develop our conscious mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We still have this huge resource.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Operating from the background that's called…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: the unconscious… it's a combination of the subconscious and the unconscious mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… We forget about that resource, it's still there, it's still operating, it's still running us.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But we forget about it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And we… all we hear is this conscious part, which I call the chihuahua mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because, no offense to anybody that has chihuahuas, but you know, they're small dogs, they're really yuppie, they don't know that a Great Dane is bigger than them, and so they'll boss the Great Dane around.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Right?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm generalizing here, no offense to anybody with chihuahuas. I live in Mexico, so there's a lot of chihuahuas.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But the Great Dane… so, the reason I call the unconscious mind the all-knowing Great Dane.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I call the conscious mind the chihuahua brain, because
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The conscious brain that we start to really rely on after about age 10
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's the brain that does, you know, logical thinking.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Problem solving, planning, that's all awesome!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But it also does overthinking.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Second-guessing, self-doubt, and self-criticizing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But what we might not understand is that
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That part downloads the Chihuahua part.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Downloads about 40 bits of information per second.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Absorbs it into our brain and stores it at about 40, at a rate of about 40 bits per second.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That seems like a lot, right? 40 bits per second? That's a lot. No?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And the Great Dane, the all-knowing Great Dane unconscious mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's the operating system for our immune system, our body. That's where we store all our imagination, that's where we store every single thing that's ever happened to us. We store all our knowledge there, we store all our beliefs, we store all our habits, all our senses, our intuition, and our imagination, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Probably something that I'm forgetting.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That downloads 40 million bits of information per second.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And we're ignoring it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And we're not… we're not trusting it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So… That's…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: the self-trust part that I was explaining to this young lady, that's… all those intelligences are stored there, and you can trust them.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You don't need to work this hard, you don't need to struggle. You can be just as successful and just as accomplished.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Not taking any of that away.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But what if you just trusted it? You trusted that as soon as you learn something, that Great Dane
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It has it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It knows it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And you, when you trust it, you can access it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: you know, it's kind of what I do all day long with clients, but, I mean, it's transformational when you realize you have all these resources
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But it's not enough to just know that you have the resources.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You have to trust.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: the system.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that is.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Feedback.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah, you have to trust.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: you're…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You have to kind of trust the unknown, because that part of you is… is by… after age 10, it's…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It goes under the surface, and you really… You can't…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: feel it, but when you start to do more and more of this kind of change work that I do, and you get unstuck.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: From all the sort of stuck emotions that people have, you start to use hypnosis and self-hypnosis.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: you discover your intuition, your imagination, your creativity, and your self-trust, it's
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: completely changes your life. You start to have access.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: To all of that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So imagine a leader in a corporation that has access to all that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: what kind of success could they have? What kind of a…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: What kind of an environment
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: ecosystem could that create in your business? What kind of productivity could that bring to your business?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Instead of doing the whack-a-mole of, you know, beating people up and criticizing them and, you know, increasing their low self-esteem and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And, clogging up their cognitive function, and then you have to fire them, and then that costs a lot of money, because, you know, you gotta outsource them, and then you gotta bring somebody in and try… like, it's crazy counterproductive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It is crazy counterproductive, and it doesn't need to be.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It does not happen.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's, like… Yeah.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, we are, you know, we're wasting… so many resources.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That are so available.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How do you feel about your body actually trying to communicate to you through your…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Your body as the listening mechanism to your subconscious.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah, so that's… that's a really interesting question. So…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Absolutely, you know, in the work that I do, the change work that I do with the bunny talk process, which…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I need to say that I did not create that process. It's created by my friend and colleague, whose name is Claudia Rickard, and I'm one of half a dozen trainers of that process, and a practitioner of it. So, yeah.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Our body, you know, there's different books that you may or may not be familiar with, The Body Keeps the Score, etc. It is absolutely true that we
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Feel our stalk emotion in our body.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that's part of the… Bunny top process where we draw it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We don't have… need the story.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We need to know where we're feeling it to release it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So that's… True, that our body communicates what we're feeling, because Neurologically speaking,
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Sensation and emotions run along the same neural pathways.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Emotions are chemical reactions in your body.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah, we're all hormonal, like, everything is… everything is a chemical reaction.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And your thoughts… Or beliefs, which…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Beliefs are thoughts that are on repeat, on…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know, and we have them… we have 9… about 60 to 90,000 thoughts per day.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: As a typical human.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: 90% of those are repeaters.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So they just get, you know, embedded deeper and deeper and deeper into our neural pathway, or that neural pathway is grooved, you know, bigger, deeper.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Every time we have that thought. So the thought… creates… Or leads to an emotion.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that emotion leads to a hormonal response.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that hormonal response leads to, a result?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay, and an action.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So… Yeah, everything… I'm so glad you asked that question, because the truth is…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Our bodies are responding to our thoughts.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So everything begins at the thought level.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I will often ask clients, or groups…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Depending on who I'm working with.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Who controls your thoughts?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Do you control your thoughts, or do they control you?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And often, People say, I control them.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But sometimes, people say, no, my thoughts control me, and they're really adamant about it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They just come!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And they control me.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah, it seems that way.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But the reason that it seems that way is because those thoughts have been on repeat for so long, they're automated.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But they're right.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They're right that the thoughts do control them, because our thoughts lead to our emotions, and our emotions lead to our hormones, and our hormones lead to,
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: a result, and that leads to an action. But we do control our thoughts.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: we can.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We can change them.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can change them. Exactly. But you'd be surprised.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: How many people don't know that?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So we're here to tell you folks!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And you can change the story you tell yourself about your past.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: A lot of people get stuck in this, where it's just like, I'm the victim because XYZ happened to me when I was whatever.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And that defines their whole life, and it really comes back to their thoughts. They think about it, and it's how they think about it. It's the chemical dump that they're experiencing in their body, which we call hormones.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Which produces different reactions in how they interact with others, because it also changes the energy around you, and so people will give that back to you. They become energized the way you're energized, so you find yourself around miserable people who are
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: having similar stories that they're telling themselves. This is a super simple thing.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Not easy, but it's simple.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Tell yourself a different story.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Like, I have stories about my mom and my childhood. There are facts around that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: as I perceived it.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It can either be a really negative thing in my life, and it could have
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it could have caused me to commit suicide at one point. It almost did. Or I could have made the decision, which I did, that, you know, I'm just gonna tell myself a different story about what was going on, and why it happened, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And how it's benefited me now.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And that's the story I choose to tell myself, because that's the one that's productive.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: The other one doesn't serve me at all, but so many people wander around and don't understand why their life sucks, and how come it's not getting any better.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm glad that you said that, especially because you have the perspective of having experienced that yourself.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that's another… I will… I'm gonna refer back to the bunny talk process.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because, that's right, the more that we tell the story of those traumatic events, number one, we groove it deeper into our neurology.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We just keep digging ourselves into a deeper hole. And the other thing, this is part… I brought out… I don't know if you can see it, but I brought out my little multicolored ball for the.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I love that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So we use this, this is, there's a hypnotist trainer, NLP trainer, Carl Smith.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Who came up with the idea of using this to represent how emotions get stuck in the brain.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, this represents the amygdala, which is our fight, flight, freeze response, which is a very protective part of our brain that we need.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And everything that we experience has to flow through here first. It's like the…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The metal detector of your brain, right?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Is there anything that we need to be concerned about? We're gonna catch it here.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's like a filter.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And when you have a traumatic, or… no. When you have any event where this is activated, fight, flight, freeze, any event, any experience in your life where this gets activated, it could be a good thing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Anything where adrenaline is activated by this part of your brain, it gets stuck here. It gets attached, it gets fixed. Could be great things, could be happy things, you know, the birth of your grandchild.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's so easy to access, isn't it, that memory, because it's right here. It's not gone off into some, you know, other part of the brain for storage. It's right here, accessible to you.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that trauma… the… that happened when you were a child. That got stuck here, too.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that's super accessible to you. You've told yourself a better story, which is great.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But the emotions around those experiences get stuck in your brain.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And what the bunny talk process does without the story, it uses NLP, it uses eye movement.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It gets that emotion unstuck.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So that doesn't bother you anymore.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You've done that for yourself by telling yourself a better story, but not everybody can do that, because…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That emotion is literally physically stuck in their brain.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's called an AMPA receptor.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And so… That's what I love about the bunny top process, and it's so powerful, it's almost…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I've used it a lot. I've been doing a lot of demos of it, for people. I just did one the other day in school, in one of the classrooms or communities, and every single person, there was 8 people there, every single person
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: had…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: got almost to, like, 3 or below in that stock emotion just in a half hour. It's super, super powerful.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And it lasts.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's not, like, a temporary thing, and there's no need to keep telling yourself a story, because…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That takes effort and energy.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's just… it's just done. It's just gone. It's just moved out into a different part of your brain, and it's no longer stuck.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And you're right, though. You're so right. It is about telling yourself a better story, because we are the movies that we make in our minds.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We are… those are gonna give us the results.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… the…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You know, this is a responsible way to move past that past trauma, or as we might call it, a significant emotional event that we don't want to keep re-experiencing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But yeah, like, keeping on telling the story, and, I don't mean to… I don't mean to,
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: delegitimize or denigrate anybody that's experienced significant trauma that is still stuck in it, but there are ways.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: that work.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That can… you can take responsibility to get with somebody like me, or… it doesn't have to be me, but you can get unstopped from that, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I always say, let's listen.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There are two resources in life.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And one is renewable, and one isn't.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Well, there's lots of resources, but these are, like.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: the two big, most important ones, I… I would…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that is time and money.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Money, you can always make more of. Money is absolutely a renewable resource, and if you have a block around that, come and join my group, and join my Success Block SmackDown program, and let's get rid of that block, because money is a renewable resource. There's no question about that. Time, however, is not.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, if you're stuck in the past, and you're still struggling and suffering from something that happened.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In the past, and you're still getting… you're still suffering, you're still triggered, you're still re-experiencing that, you cannot get that time back, and you only have one life.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Let's… Put the past in the past.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And move it out.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's no reason.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: If you don't have the money, Well…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Find it. Make it. Do it. Like, I'm sorry. There are ways.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Sorry, there are ways. I mean…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Join school for free, and learn from all the people on school who are selling, you know, or teaching you for free, how to do affiliate marketing, and how to sell digital projects. Like, if you have a computer…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Set up on Substack.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Set up on.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And go sell other people's communities.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: For your… the affiliate commissions on your substack.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Totally free, you can make a lot of money, because a lot of…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can join Jill's group on school and learn how to do it… for free!
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Duh.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You don't have…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: to be stuck.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: At the beginning, we talked about the hidden self-worth struggle that affects most people, and the role self-trust plays in overcoming it. For some people listening right now who realize this… they've been operating from fear rather than self-trust, what's the first practical step they can take today to begin rebuilding that foundation permanently?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I love that question.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm gonna give you… so… I'm gonna give all your listeners, this is not an affirmation.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: This is… direct suggestion.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: To your unconscious mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Very, very different.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It is in the present, and it is telling your mind what you want it to feed back to you. You're creating a feedback loop.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And this is a game changer and a life changer, and this… phrase.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Jill, I'd love for you to just… maybe you could try it and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: See what it does for you.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Blending breaths happening already.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Alright, great. So, so… If you don't mind, like, is there something that you… Are concerned about.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We'll go with the challenge that's happening tomorrow.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay, alright, so, perfect!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Now, I want to calibrate that for you, so… Jill's doing the most amazing challenge, and I'm going to be in it to do it, okay?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So I have concern about that. Can you give me a number? Can you give me a number? I have a scale here. Can you give me a number? I'll just give you a little visual.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Can you give me a scale of that concern? Hopefully you can see this. 0…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: 0 to 11, and I know those of you who are watching this, this looks kind of like…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I don't know, it's analog and it looks kind of messy.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Why? Because this was created by an ADHD 9-year-old in my office.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Who I needed to occupy, and I asked him to make me a scale.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I love it, and I use it. It's on the back of my clipboard.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: 4 or 2…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Sweet, it's…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes!
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: wonderful, and I can never lose my ruler, because it's always on the back of my clipboard, and he engineered this for me. He's 9 years old, okay? So, love it! I love it. Alright, so give me a number.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Love it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Bureau, the concern that you have right now.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Zero.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: He made it 11, because he's like, well, people go above 10.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yeah, you're right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that he thought of that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Oh, he's brilliant.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So I'm gonna go with about a 7.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Perfect.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Right.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: 7.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, I'm gonna ask you to take two fingers, two bunny fingers, like this.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I want you to tap on your, your upper lip.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I want you to repeat after me, and those of you who are listening who can't see this.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Just take two fingers and tap on your upper lip.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and repeat… After me.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: to know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To know.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: what to do.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what to do.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and say…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: in any.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And all.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And all?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself to know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: What to do.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what to do.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Then say…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself to know what to do and say in any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: what to do.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: June.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know what to do and say in any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's right. Is that right, Jill?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, that's right.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Is it?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, it is.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: not.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Is it not? Is it not? Is it not? It is.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's right. It is, isn't it? You tap here on your chin, I trust myself to know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: What to do and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What to do and say?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I trust myself to know.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What to do.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: fence.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm laughing, I'll tell you why I'm laughing in a moment.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because I'm watching you, and I'll talk about that in a moment.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: What's this number at now?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Let's say a 4. 4 comes to mind fast.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So we have change. I trust myself to know what to do and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances. And I was giggling a little bit.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Because I was watching you and calibrating you.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: As your eyes were doing a transderivational search.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: To sort of, like, figure this out.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… and I… I was watching your physicality change.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I noticed, like, a little bit of a release.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Is that… does that sound accurate?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, I… I started out, I didn't know where we were going, and then there was a recognition. There was a recognition of, oh, we're tapping.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yes.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I'm familiar with that. And then I got into how you were saying the sentences, because you changed them up. There were…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: More emphasis on certain words.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: as we repeated them, and so I was looking for those patterns in there, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: when I look for patterns, that gives my…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: chewing gum to my conscious mind, so that my subconscious mind… because I know tapping really… I normally tap around my collarbone,
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it… It regulates my nervous system.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: way that…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's not the purpose of this.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The purpose of this is to talk to your unconscious mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And to just deliver that message this way, because our body is run by our unconscious mind, so it listens to us through our body easily.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We're just tapping it in. It's just a delivery system, in this case.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Morse code.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: No way! So… so, yeah.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, yeah, so trusting myself to know what to do and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: No.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Let's do something else.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I want you to just close your eyes now.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I want you to think of a time.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: When you accomplish something really great.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Let me know with a nod of your head when you have that.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's right.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Great, and I want you to picture that time. Make it really vivid. Make it really colorful and vivid, and smell the smells, and hear the sounds, and see the sights of that time.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And the feelings and the emotions of that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: time when you felt really accomplished. You've got that now? That's right. And I want you to take a screenshot in your mind. A beautiful, really nice.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Photograph of that moment, that peak of that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Accomplishment moment, you got it?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Great.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I want you to imagine… now, not everybody can imagine, so we just want to include everyone. Just, if you can't imagine, some people have something,
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's not a problem, they just think differently.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: But, one of my colleagues studies this a lot.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And, it's when you can't… you can't picture things. It's a… some people… some people…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Imagine or picture things in a different way.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And you can just think about it. If you can't picture it, that's fine.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So… but you can clearly imagine it, I can see that. So now you've got it in a beautiful frame, and it's gorgeous, and it's… you're feeling…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: The same way you did.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: When you accomplish that, right?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You feel that? Yeah. I want you to shrink that down in your imagination, too. Like, thumbnail size.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay? Shrink it, shrink, shrink it, shrink the picture.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Down to thumbnail size.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And now, because you can blow it right back up to the… it takes up the entire frame of your…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Brain. Your brain's screen.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Blow it right back up, yeah? So you can make it… shrink it down, and you can blow it back up, is that right?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yep.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You're great at that. Alright, so now I want you to take that little thumbnail, just imagine that you can put it on the seat next to you, for whenever you need it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Alright, and open your eyes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And I want you to think about your event tomorrow.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And, as you think about your event tomorrow, close your eyes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Close your eyes, and…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Take that little thumbnail and blow it up to the entire screen of your mind now.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's right. Okay? Great.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… shrink it back down. Thumbnail size, put it back down on the bench next to you. And open your eyes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Close your eyes and think of your event tomorrow.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And… swoosh! That entire…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Picture that thumbnails goes up to the same size as the entire screen of your mind now, with all the emotion associated with it.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And shrink it back down and put it back on the chair next to you, and open your eyes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Great, and close your eyes, think of your event tomorrow. Great. And take that thumbnail and blow it back so it takes up the entire screen of your mind again.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And all that emotion.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And shrink it back down, and put it on the seat next to you again.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And open your eyes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And close your eyes and think of that event tomorrow again, and take that thumbnail and blow it back up to take up the entire screen of your mind, and as you do…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Say, I trust myself to know what to do and say in any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Just like I did.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In this moment.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Interest.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I trust myself.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: 2 and 6.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: do and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To know what to do and say in any and all circumstances, just like I did.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That time, and I have so much evidence.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You know, I have so much evidence.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's so much evidence that I can.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Trust myself.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: To me.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So much evidence to trust myself to know.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: What to do and say.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What to do and say.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In any and all circumstances.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Take that picture now.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Shrink it back down, put it on the seat next to you again.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And open your eyes. And one more time, we're gonna close your eyes. One more time.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And take that little thumbnail and blow it right back up one more time.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: One more time, blow it right back up. It takes up the entire screen of your mind.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You trust yourself to know what to do and say in any and all circumstances, including tomorrow, including every aspect of tomorrow, is that right?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, it is.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Is it not?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, it is.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It is, isn't it? You agree?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I do agree.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's right.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And open your eyes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Okay, so think about that time tomorrow, and you think about the event tomorrow.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Give me a number.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're… we're down there, I… I got this.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Love it. Okay?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There you go. There's a little hypnosis for you there.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's a Folks?
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Not only will you benefit, but everybody else who came.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Comes tomorrow.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's that consequential thinking, because now that you trust yourself.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can do everything that you're capable of.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And everyone in that training is going to get a magnificent
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Result, and they're going to model you, and they're going to be able to trust themselves as well.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In their own podcast or business, to know what to do and say in any and all circumstances.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Love this, Melissa. Thank you so much. So, how can people reach out to you?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That is super easy, because my name is my website, and you can meet with Melissa.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Dot me.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: www.meetwithmelissa.me. If you want to talk to me.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm a human.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's no automation, like, well, there is, like…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: you'll get a little calendar link there, and you can sign up to chat with me. Now, if you can't find a time.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can just message me at melissa at melissaboherjacobson.com.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: and say, I want to meet with you, but I can't find a time on your calendar, and I will humanly and personally customize
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: a time.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: For you, because automations… Are not the be-all and end-all of everything.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: They're helpful, but I'm not automated.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm a human, helping other humans.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can also…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: if you like, if you enjoyed this today, and you want more, you can work with me, you can set up a free consult and talk about specifically what you want to work on. You can also join my group, Hypnosis for Success, on school.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Or you can join my… and, well, you're gonna do all these things.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You're gonna join my sub stack, right?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Whatever that's called.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Go.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Go from Stasis?
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Back to success. To success.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: dot substack.com.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Yes.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: It's new, so it's not top of mind yet, but there's so many resources. I'm big on change. Obviously, I am a change worker, I just…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm all about helping people get unstuck and make change, so you can find resources on the Substack. You can find resources in school. There's so many trainings in my free Hypnosis for Success program.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: We're getting ready to do a 5-day challenge, starts today.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And that's about finding one area that you're stuck, and we're gonna unstick you. We're gonna…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Smack it down, because we have a… Group Coaching Program.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: where we smash down all these success blocks. It's called Success Block.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: SmackDown, and it's in the Success Breakthrough room.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: In my, in my group, in my community.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: You can go to YouTube, too. You know, you can find me on YouTube.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And there's lots of resources there, so… There's so much available.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: To you, to move you from stuck to success.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: So, I encourage you to do that.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: There's no reason to stay stuck, we have the resources.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And once we have the knowledge and the skills.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: And the attitude and the belief, then there's really nothing…
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: To stop you from being unstoppable.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: Is there.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There is not.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: That's right.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thank you, Melissa, for joining us today and sharing your wisdom. This has been really… Amazing.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I'm glad.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Shit.
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::Melissa Boher Jacobson: I enjoyed it a lot. Thank you for having me today.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You can learn more about Melissa and find her free training, Why Few Feel Nervous, and…
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what to do about it, or why you feel nervous, and what to do about it inside our free Hypnosis for Success community.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I will put that link in the show notes below. Also, join her sub-stack, where you can find lots of resources, and her website, and I will make sure that all of the links are below.
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::Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thank you for joining us today. If you're ready to amplify your voice, monetize your mission, and start attracting premium clients, your next step is simple. Head to thecoachesalchemist.com and schedule your free client acquisition audit. Join us for our next episode as we share what others are doing to raise the global frequency, and remember, change begins with you. You have all the power to change the world. Start today and get visible.
